Before I dive head first into my vent, let me be very clear. I am NOT a single mother. Not because it's a "bad thing" but because I am, in all cases, not one.
By comparing me to a single mother you are missing the mark and diminishing the absolute strength single mothers have. This isn't to say military spouses aren't strong but we aren't "single" in any capacity just because our spouses are deployed.
We have a husband/wife who is there for us emotionally and financially, along with many other things. Maybe they are gone so we don't have the physical back-up but that doesn't equate us to a single mother.
If you are a woman with a deployed spouse and consider yourself to be "like a single parent", I encourage you to really look into what it means to be a single parent.
I want to point out that I get the loose concept of being compared to a single mom- I do. But if someone tells me "Sarah, I don't know how you do it, it's like you are a single mom", I will be happy to clarify that I'm not. Maybe it is meant as a compliment, or maybe even a "bless her heart" moment, but I just don't agree with it.
Single mothers, you are amazing. Your determination and independence speaks volumes about your character.
I am grateful every day for my husband and will never take his support, near or far, for granted.
Military spouses are many things. A single mother is not one of them.
Dear single fathers,
I know my blog speaks directly to single mothers but I see you, too. I see the incredible impact you make on you child(ren)'s. This speaks directly to mothers since it is in response to something I specifically read.
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